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HAVING had this quote reposted on Facebook so many times, now it feels like a constant reminder for us all:
“Once my Mom told me that she entered a room where two friends were talking about her, they didn’t know she was there. He shook his head, smiled, and walked away.
“My Mom also told me that she had a friend who talked bad about her, she never knew that Mom knew, Mom never mentioned it. He smiled and walked away from this friendship.
“He told me that he had a family that chose to move him out of their lives because he stood up for himself for a change. And because he stopped crossing the ocean for them when they wouldn’t help him cross a bridge. He smiled, shook his head, and walked away.
“So I asked him how he got away from people who betrayed him while pretending to be his friends or family?
“He replied that every time he came to a crossroads like that, he had to decide who would continue his journey with him. It showed him who he couldn’t take with him.
“That’s why he explained to me that you shouldn’t be angry with someone who betrayed you, even in the name of friendship or family. Bow down and enjoy your journey with all the new people God has put in their place.”
There is another quote that is also worth remembering:
“If you have to choose between me and the others, choose them.”
Getting older has its benefits and one of them is freedom from toxic people because senior moments can only allow a lower level of patience. The friend who hates you doesn’t have to deal with you once he decides to block and drop you from his life. The wise advice of a friend for this is to lower that particular person from a friend to an acquaintance despite the fact that you have decided to choose friendship over conflict, which will not work if the other party chooses conflict over friendship.
But when you’re out of his life, does that mean all his friends are what he wants? Or will he gossip about these people he still considers his friends?
Gossip is a hard habit for some people to break. Once a rumor, always a rumor. He talks about other people when you’re with him, and he talks about you when he’s with other people. The surprising thing is that no one stops him because they all like to listen to his gossip even though it’s the same topic repeated over and over again until it comes out of their eyes, ears, nose, and mouth because these are the same people who like to spread gossip. And these listeners do not know that they will be his subjects, too, in the future.
I like to use the word “gossip” because it sounds like “gossip monster.” Haha. Bad gossip from other people, as if he is the most perfect person in the universe, no mistakes, no mistakes, no sins. Like an angel, a saint, a god.
Beware of these holier-than-thou gossiping beasts if you need real friends.
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